Are You Married?

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  1. pkaji123

    pkaji123 MDL Addicted

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    Sorry If I interfere In Ur Personal Things!!!

    Are You Married?

    First Of All My Answer is No! Bcoz I am Only 17,Not Even a Single Girl Friend.

    What's Up About U?
     
  2. tnx

    tnx MDL Expert

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    I am married...aweeeeeee

    married since 2002 but we bought our first house in 1988 and lived under brush for all those years.

    Two kids,well teenagers. 14 and 15.

    1 cat,very old and will hopefully die soon ! ( dont like pets ) :eek:

    Today wearing stipey blue boxers.

    Long curly, grey free hair which aint bad for a 43 year old bloke.

    size 9 shoe.

    :D
     
  3. Mads0

    Mads0 MDL Novice

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    Not married, but I'm hoping to be in the not too far away future!
     
  4. Carel

    Carel MDL Member

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    Goodness crap. I'm 18 years old & I'm GLAD to hear I'm not the only one who has NEVER had a girlfriend. And NO - I'm NOT gay!!!!!;)
     
  5. genuine555

    genuine555 MDL Expert

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    #5 genuine555, Dec 24, 2009
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    I was...married.

    But first in my teenage years I went haywire cause of too much partying and drugs. Grew up in a broken and poor family, so yeah, I was bad.
    Girlfriends ? yeah, I've had 'em. But never for long.
    Use them and loose them was my game...
    Started as Dj in a few clubs, and didn't give a damn about anything.
    Only one thing on my mind : It's my life, and I'm living it now !
    Sex, drugs and rock&roll 5 days a week, money was no problem.
    But then, u can guess, the lifestyle backstabbed me in the face, and got a huge depression for almost a year due to excessive...well, everything.
    No matter what they tell you-> drugs is bad for you !
    Got back on my feet eventually, and said goodbye to all things bad in my life.
    At that time though, my livelyhood was gone. And what did I have to show for after earning and spending TONS of money ? NOTHING. Not a dime...
    So got into some debt shortly after that. And I then learned the value of life.
    Started studying and focussing on the things that never mattered before.
    That made me strong. Stronger then before. Became a decent man who stands up for himself, personally and professionally, and never looked back once.

    That was all before age 20.

    Got married @22
    First son @23
    Second son @26
    Wife nearly died giving birth then, due to complications. Internal bleeding that was nearly impossible to stop. Eventually some laser technique managed to burn the veigns shut. She was long transferred to another hospital at that point.
    So my newborn kid in one hospital, my wife in another. After a week and a half she got out of her coma, and we had to work on her revalidation for two months.
    Made some more debt at that time.

    Everything went bad from then. Very bad. Old secrets were revealed on both sides, and what once thought of as love, turned out to be something very different.

    So...

    Divorced @27

    Now @ age 29, I'm in a new relationship, and got a kid with her too. A girl...
    Relativly happy now, considering... :rolleyes:
    Got some degrees in IT and networking, and my two boys are with us two weeks every month. Compared to what I earned as a DJ and other, more obscure stuff, I'm now a poor man, and still paying off some of the debt. But it's a decent living, and I have three very good reasons to work my *** off. And so it's with pleasure...

    Life is tough as a mother...
    But it's a hell of a ride :p

    One thing though : I will never, ever...eeeever ever ever !!
    get married again !
    It's just NOT worth it anymore. Cause when it goes sour, you in for some bad times :eek:
    I'd rather put a cap in my *** then go through that again.

    And as soon as my new girl even asks me to marry, I'm OUT !
    But she knows that and respects it. And that's one of the reasons why I love her.


    Oh yeah -> my hear isn't grey yet (with three kids, it's a miracle), and I have a size 9 1/2 shoe...
     
  6. secr9tos

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    @gen555: pfuu that's a life career, I wish u all the best and a happy Christmas:)
     
  7. alextheg

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    I am married, beautiful wife and four lovely daughter. Ages 5 and a half through to 16. Simillar start to life as Gen555. I was a loner at school and when i was 16 i found friends in the wrong places. Partying and drugs way too often. BTW i 100% agree with Gen555. drugs are definately bad. I may have a history with them but i would NEVER recommend them to anyone else.

    So i carried on partying till i was 25 and then i hit my depression and realised i was on a path to nowhere. I removed myself from all the bad things and people and spent a long while reflecting on the past years. Took time but things got better. Gradually bettered myself in my employment and then also financially.

    At 27 i met the woman i married at 29. She changed everything...she makes me very happy and we are looking forward to our fifth aniversary in june. I now work maintaining and replacing the gas pipe network in England, a job that not only pays me very well but i also enjoy greatly. My only wish is that i had pursued IT as a career when i was much younger, still its great as a hobby.

    Merry christmas everybody :):D:D:)
     
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  8. tnx

    tnx MDL Expert

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    Self denial, it's an awfull thing...;)
     
  9. msr

    msr MDL Senior Member

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    No, and never will be thankfully.

    Be grateful for the things you have, and be grateful that you do not play the game, if you are not. Your not missing out on anything.
     
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  10. genuine555

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    btw, merry christmas to all of you :)
    Nicest time of the year, so enjoy the moment.
    I know I will :D
     
  11. PAYMYRENT

    PAYMYRENT MDL Developer

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    :p im 18 and ive had a girlfriend for almost a year and a half now. she talks about babies and getting married. when she talks about that stuff i shutup and pretend to listen :D
     
  12. kiet68

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    nice topic huh...but yeah, sometimes we to take rest..
    me, im not married but i have a son his name is vincent a 4 years old cute little boy...
    my girlfriend was name davine dean she doesnt see his father, an american father i remember his name is David Robert Dean... a american soldier was based in philippines before.

    me and my gf, we've together for almost 6 years of misunderstanding that the reason why till now were not married..but those tears that falls, it makes our love to be much more stronger...

    till I decided to work abroad and studying till i finish it.a working student..
    and i promise that when im come back home, i will marry her with full of love.

    sori guys, but its my real story.
     
  13. Carel

    Carel MDL Member

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    There are a few reasons why I wouldn't get a girlfriend {btw, I HATE Porn}:
    1.) I'm too shy to make-a-move
    2.) I don't know how to flirt back
    3.) I don't want a fling, I want a REAL relationship
    4.) I don't like it if they hang around me, or want to ki55 the way they do in the movies... {u get it?}
    5.) The main reason - I cant seem to find my type :-(

    I don't say I don't want a girlfriend, I just need to work on a few things...

    My friends all have girlfriends every week / month they get a new one. Some girls are full of crap, for exapmle, one of my friends told me his girl was angry at him - The reason -> He was on his way to visit her & his car broke down. So, he stopped outside the gate & opened the car's bonnet... Guess what - The girl is angry at him {for some very weirdo reason}. So, he told her from now on he'll open his car's bonnet somewhere else...

    It's a crap problem, just as much as we desire them, just as much we can't have them {for friendship, off course}. I think I won't get one, because my Pets, PC & Electronics {hobby} keeps me busy 24/7, really. I'm a curious man, I disasemble every elecronical thing I can get my hands on & try reverse engineering on it, them I try to enhace them... That's why sometimes I work right through the night, untill the next morning, sometimes until 10 o'clock the next morning {I get average 4 hours sleep a day}. It even happend to me in the past, I got very sick because I don't get enough sleep... Then I get shakes, fright attacks, heartbeats & my mother fights with me...

    Hey, if women were roses / plants, then it would've been EXCELENT. Just imagine, you can cut off their thorns & if they make you very angry, you just simply don't give them any water... Untill they become wilted... After they ask nicely, you can give them water again. {just a joke}
     
  14. tippmannman7

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    Nope, 20 and good with that. Although I did have a GF for about 6 years though.
     
  15. azrul

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    #15 azrul, Jan 4, 2010
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    Married for 4 years,have 2 doughters.they r my love now,with my wife,the spark is gone.trying to love again,but i just cant.maybe it is normal to feel that way after some time.our kids r the only things that keep us together.trying to reason with myself,thinks about what she has done for me,but i just cant feel the love.
     
  16. genuine555

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    #16 genuine555, Jan 4, 2010
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    Don't want to impose anything, bro, it's your own life, but staying together for the kids only isn't the way. I experienced that myself. It'll go bad someday, somehow.

    Don't want to muddle with your life though, not at all.
    Just know what you're doing, cause there are kids involved.
    In my case, the kids are better off now, and happier, cause my ex-wife and I are happier.

    Don't know you OR your situation, so you have to make up your own mind AND life, but I can tell you what was best in my situation, so I just hope this will be some usefull advise to assess your own life and make the right decision in the end.ยต

    If you read up on my post in this thread previously, you will know where I'm getting at.
    I'm 29 now, but have the mind of a 40 year old, cause of the s**t I've been through at very young age.
    Most of it my own doing, for sure, but marriage is something one can't control the way he or she should, and is very overrated anyway.
    Relations rarely last anymore, and there are some very good reasons for that, of which I will NOT go into.

    Think of the lives of your kids FIRST, then your own, and with common sense, you will get what you want.

    gen555
     
  17. mailme

    mailme MDL Novice

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    My reply to you new friend: I'm married ten years. Life changes. and love changes.
    Your opportunity is show unconditional love as another human being is with you.
    We learn to love it seems magic at first, but it's learned.
    Hang in there soldier...and pay attention to your mate...she/he asks for something. Do your best. Make it an unconditional effort.
    Be honest with yourself and you will feel the love again. I promise.
    To love once is to love forever.
     
  18. azrul

    azrul MDL Junior Member

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    If not for the kids,then what else?how to fall in love again?i always push myself to get rid the negative thinking,remember our happier time together,but the feeling cant last .i just hope,things will change eventually.thanks for the advice,really appreciate it.
     
  19. alextheg

    alextheg Super Moderator
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    Many wise words here. I will add only a four, be true to yourself. :)
     
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  20. genuine555

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    I'll add four more : ...and to your kids.