By Dan Mahle on Friday October 20th, 2017 Transformation Starts with Us I remember when I first discovered internet porn–I was 17 years old (1). Fascinated by this world of unleashed sexual expression and fantasy, I couldn’t get enough of it. As I grew up and began exploring my own sexuality, I discovered just how different watching pixels on a screen was compared to the intimacy of making love with another human being. I thought I’d outgrow my porn habit over time. But I never did. I didn’t know it then, but porn had become an addiction. And, like most addictions, it was a behavior that I was ashamed to talk about or even admit was a problem. “Yeah, everybody watches porn,” I remember hearing. It seemed so pervasive and culturally accepted that having an actual conversation about it was a total non-starter. So I kept it to myself. I thought I had my habit under control. I thought I could quit porn whenever I felt like it. I even tried to quit a few times and then rationalized my eventual return to the addiction. I didn’t realize how much watching porn manipulated my mind, warping my sexuality, numbing my feelings, and impacting my relationships with women. And I was not alone. According to a recent study, more than 70 percent of men aged 18 to 34 visit porn sites in a typical month. And it’s not just guys watching sex online. It is estimated that 1 in 3 porn users today are women. Now, I want to be clear here that porn use extends beyond the male/female gender binary, but for the purpose of this post I am sharing my experience with porn from the perspective of a heterosexual, cisgender, white man. Let me also state clearly that I don’t think all porn is bad. I’ve seen some great videos of couples engaging in intimate and respectful sexual encounters–of course, these are often only found on feminist porn sites or in the ‘female friendly’ category (it’s interesting to note what the category name ‘female friendly’ implies about all the other categories). But I’m not here to judge anyone else for what they choose to watch. I’m simply sharing the impacts that porn has had on my life and what has changed for me since I’ve stopped watching it. To me, what is worrying about porn is not how many people use it, but how many people–like me–have found themselves addicted to it. As Dr. Jeffrey Satinover stated in his 2004 testimony to the U.S. Senate subcommittee on pornography: Continue reading
well at 17 u have a developing brain of course looking at porn will have a mayor impact...all i can say is go out a lot and try to meet and hook up with as many women u can that should compensate for the porn...also theirs always castration that will stop your addiction
That's what Nicola Tesla did to ward the women off. Only he didn't cut them out, he crushed them with a hammer and pliers.
It's Nikola, actually... He had many phobias, as is well documented. Since it is well known that he was way ahead of his time, he envisaged a sad new generation of men, sitting in front of a computer jerking-off with their left hand... like we are today...
a lot of men that suffer from this kind of addiction lack mayor social skills...when i was young i went out almost every night i hated to stay home....then again i grow up in very different time.