ok i live at home with my mum (you at the back stop laughing) yes i'm in my 30's, anyway that's not the point... my sister who has a catalog of bad life decisions is make me and my mums life hell. ok, let me take you back... she hasn't lived in my parents house for 20+ years she basically moved out to start her own life, she moved to london, married a guy named Karim and has pretty much given us the impression she has hated her life since, the thing is she's not an easy person to live with as she likes to complain about everything under the sun, also got married in secret (didn't tell parents) and got pregnant too and again only told them when the baby was due. fast forward a bit, little one is 11, she walked out with her son (who's autistic) of the london flat last nov giving domestic abuse as the reason and first went to a refuge, the thing is she refuses to tell us 99% of what's going on and still does which is annoying. she then got put up (temp) in a family friends bungelow but she eventually found her too much to handle and they had to move out, she could've got to the refuge in our town but me and mum made the dumb decision of having her here at home. since then she's had many outbursts, she takes out all her frustration, anger etc on us and constantly turns all arguements around to make us the ones that don't understand / care / make us feel guilty / bad etc. all the while telling us we are upsetting her soon which is bs as she only acts crazy round us. she also tells us things out of the blue like one day she suddenly told us she has autism too, we honestly (well i) don't know if half the stuff she tells us is true or crazy talk....when she hardly tells us anything. she's been going to court appointments regarding custody of her son and also acts nasty leading up to one but also when there is no appointments. she's very random. my question is, how would we go about making them move out and would that even be possibly? because my mum has had high blood pressure recently (it has now gone down) and is now depressed because of the constant complaining and whining by my sister. should i / we feel guilty if we had to or decided to kick them out? because it's frankly pissing me off and making mum sick. i already tried complaining to our local refuge but they are useless and won't take her because she's in a "safe place".... it's her mental state that's the problem and she won't take ANY advice or help from us or family or friends. only her support worker who we've never met and who she won't even have come here. we haven't even had a social worker visit yet to see what's going on. bit lost on what to do, i'm already trying to work from home which is just not possible right now. any thoughts oh wise forum folk? i'm in the uk btw. some of you must have been through something like this? i do feel a bit better after writing all that sh... down.